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I feel whiney and bitchy lately and it seems like life is encouraging the mood here. Ya know I do tech support/programming for a living and I am more than mildly annoyed right now that the Roomie's soon to be exwife dumps her nonworking computer on me and expects me to drop everything and fix it. Why? Because I know damned well she won't pay me for my expertise. And it is annoying to know I am being used by someone who wouldn't pay for tech support from the company that manufactured the system. It's out of warranty as the company only slapped a 1yr warranty on it. Folks that is one good reason to get a Dell, they sell 3yr warrantys and tech support is as long as you have the machine. Yeah you can have an ancient artifact(over 3yrs old in this case) and a tech will still work with you on the problem and help you rule out which part you need so you can call in and order it if you wish. I do find myself wondering why the nontechnical person automatically thinks the problem is the hard drive though. G is so concerned that her issue is her hard drive it aint even funny. I already ruled out her hard drive a while ago. It's something else, the hard drive doesn't even come into play here with the computer's behavior. Yeah I am working on it at my liesure though. I will still do my paid work first. I know when I fix it she will thank me profusely, but that and $5 will get me a grande mocha latte at Starbucks. So to me thanks aren't worth much, I'd rather have cash.

She is still planning on moving to the UK in May and ugh she is driving me nuts with information about this "prince" of a man. Sorry I don't get it, and I told Roomie I was concerned that she may just end up in a huge mess here. Am I wrong in thinking this way? Asking for opinions here. And will give what info I know. The "prince" is 10 yrs older than her which makes him 55, has two adult children and was widowed last October by his wife dying on him of some long drawn out wasting disease. They were friends and then after wife croaked it became more with long phone calls to the UK and a visit over Xmas. She converted to Islam because he is a Muslim. He is naturalised British, original birthplace was Pakistan(he's lived in England since he was 2yrs old). There is a cultural difference even if he didn't grow up in Pakistan, he was raised by Pakistani parents. I think I can speak bluntly here as I am the daughter of immigrants myself and some American traditions jar my brains. The kids of course are problematic on their own. The oldest is a man aged 25 with a drug problem and a child, no mother to be heard of. I think the "prince" is raising the grandchild. The daughter seems like a good sort aged 18. G(the soon to be exwife) already has an internship lined up with the man formerly known as Cat Stevens. Which means her name will hit someone's nofly list. Which is totally teh suxxors here. From what I understand the "prince" is finally mourning his deceased wife and such a relationship is gonna be problematic at best. My first thought was transition lover. For those who may not understand my terminology allow me to explain, a transition lover is the one who gets you through the pain of the leaving. They are everything you need when it hurts. When the hurt stops they aren't what you want for a long term/long haul relationship. I had one, I've been one, and fortunately I've stayed on good terms with my transition lover, who was great fun and helped me keep my sanity and the one I was transition for who has been a wonderful friend and I wish him only good. I am richer for that in my not so humble opinion. Thing is G isn't needing a transition lover, since she and Roomie were done over 5yrs ago, and she is investing an awful lot if she is his. She is pulling up her roots and relocating w/out right to work in the UK and cutting some serious ties to her family and friends here. And while I don't consider her a friend of mine, I do worry because I would hate to see her hurt beyond healing. Oddly enough I was her spouse's transition lover and I consider him(Roomie) a good friend, so I don't want to see her hurt. She knows this because I did broach the topic with her when I warned her not to burn all of her bridges here. Roomie still cares about her even if he doesn't want a marital relationship with her.

Am I wrong to be concerned for her? I mean worst case scenario is her ending up in the UK with nothing but what she has in her pockets and no way to come home. Best case is the fairy tale ending. It will most likely be something in between and I hope she can handle the changes because second marriages have more likelyhood of failure than first ones. I am somewhat pessimistic because I cannot for the life of me imagine ever being able to trust a man again with my heart. Of course my marriage ended in some serious violence and betrayal whereas hers did not. Opinions are most welcome as I am stewing in this and I know I need to hear other views. Roomie won't discuss it he thinks whatever happens is on her. I can't disagree there, but I don't think this will work in the long run for her.

She had a cow when she saw I had all 5 HP novels in hardcover. She is trying to get me to swap for the paperback. Aint gonna happen. I told her to hit garage sales and flea markets as that is where I got em. Got the paperbacks already.